Friday, September 12, 2008

Sharpening the Saw - Session 2

Despite a meeting conflict with IBM Toastmaster speech contest, we had one of the best turnouts in today's LPG meeting--Session 2 on the habit of Sharpening Your Saw led by Jingdong.
Attendees include: Tracy, Roger, Hung, Al, Ji-Yun, Manjusha, Joe, Hannah, Jingdong, Jingli
Points brought up include:
In the mental dimension, might try:
a. Hanna mentioned telling positive stories to yourself to overcome the mind's self-doubts
b. Jingdong reported learning a new programming language .. Perl
2. In social dimension
a. Al reported making attempts to connect to some one who now works at U of M.

Regarding socializing between management and staff, how do we make the relationship more trusting, open and two-way. Comments:

a. There is an Asian cultural element of observing hierarchy which makes it difficult for staff to "talk up"
b. But, Tracy said hold on ... not just Asians, even American employees have difficulty to initiate a social relationship with their manager
c. Trust, openness is key. How?
d. Al "got on the soap box" a bit :-), and reminded all that ... Yes, there are probably all kinds of good reasons (excuses) not to initiate a relationship with someone (whether your manager or anyone). Reasons include culture, personal or otherwise that puts up cautions such as one must observe perceived hierarchy or got to wait for the boss to initiate a socializing ritual. But, we are in LPG to live a "leadership life" and to practice effective habits. Habit 1: Be proactive says we own it. We don't have to wait. We take responsibility. It is not easy to initiate a talk to someone or to be vulnerable... but if we are true to our journey, we must continue to stretch ourselves. Sometimes, we just need to be a bit uncomfortable. Sharpening your saw is about continuing doing these things and it will get easier. Was I too preachy?

Other noteworthy points:
Handle doubts ... "You fake it until you know it." In other words, develop a belief or a habit that says, "Things always work out for me."
"Managers like all people appreciate being asked to help."
"What is the harm in asking for help?" Except one's pride, or ego, or fear of being turned down.

Homework assignment ... watch ourselves and our behavior to sharpen our saw to network, eg.
To reply to email more promptly; instead of texting or emailing--pick up the phone and call the person.

1 comment:

allnodeaol said...

Forgot to mention that Sandra had to go to TM, though she did take time to bring us into IBM and get badges for Ji-Yun and me.

Surya tried to call in but our phone was not enabled.