Before I retired from IBM, I seemed to blog more regularly. Now that I am supposedly in the green pasture, I ought to have more time. It has not worked out so far.
But this being the last day of the year, it's really a good time to finish off the year with a reflective entry about LPG.
We had a great LPG year in 2008. We completed another round of discussions and practicing of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people. On the 7 habits, our discussions were led by various members at different times including Roger, Taylor and Jin-Dong and me. Donna did a vision alignment session for us. And Abbey led an insightful couple of sessions on Emotional Intelligence for us.
Our LPG distribution list has expanded to include non-IBM members and we do have the potential to link to a larger community.
So, it has been a remarkable year. I would like to thank everyone for making it a success.
As to next year, there are interests to go deeper into Emotional Intelligence started already by Abbey. Hoa had volunteered to lead the discussions at least for the first two sessions.
Sandra has suggested to have our meeting go for an hour and a half. Here is our suggestion, we will block off the calendar for 1.5 hour. The first one hour is formal meeting and those who can and would like to can stay for the additional 1/2 hour to continual the discussions informally.
Happy New Year!
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Monday, December 8, 2008
Encouragement
Last week's IBM Toastmaster meeting theme was "Encouragement".
Someone once said that worthwhile causes fail only when participants begin to give up. In other worlds, team members became so discouraged to the point they no longer contribute to the cause.
Nothing else has changed--the need for the project is still there--whether it is raising awareness for global warming, helping children in needs, etc.
There are many reasons for people to get discouraged. I won't get into that.
Here I would like to share the lessons I learned to handle discouragement. It's straight out of Covey's Habit 1-Be Proactive. I call it the Rule of Five. For every discouragement I encounter, I treat it as an opportunity to offer encouragement to myself and too others. If I received one negative feedback or encountered one difficult obstacle, I would make a point to do 5 things to encourage others or to myself.
I have found that helps me not to give up and restore my energy and commitment to go on.
For example, last week, I went to a meeting and no one else showed up. I was the only one there. Out of that discouragement, I have started to do five things to encourage myself and others.
Perhaps, a thank you note to friends that I have made, or for new and interesting things that I have learned.
And you guess it. writing this blog and reminding people of the next LPG meeting on Emotional Intelligence is also one of those 5 things.
PS: For more information about Friday's LPG meeting: here is the link http://middlewaygroup.com/partners/leadership-practice-group-lpg/copy_of_emotional-intelligence-session-1
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Someone once said that worthwhile causes fail only when participants begin to give up. In other worlds, team members became so discouraged to the point they no longer contribute to the cause.
Nothing else has changed--the need for the project is still there--whether it is raising awareness for global warming, helping children in needs, etc.
There are many reasons for people to get discouraged. I won't get into that.
Here I would like to share the lessons I learned to handle discouragement. It's straight out of Covey's Habit 1-Be Proactive. I call it the Rule of Five. For every discouragement I encounter, I treat it as an opportunity to offer encouragement to myself and too others. If I received one negative feedback or encountered one difficult obstacle, I would make a point to do 5 things to encourage others or to myself.
I have found that helps me not to give up and restore my energy and commitment to go on.
For example, last week, I went to a meeting and no one else showed up. I was the only one there. Out of that discouragement, I have started to do five things to encourage myself and others.
Perhaps, a thank you note to friends that I have made, or for new and interesting things that I have learned.
And you guess it. writing this blog and reminding people of the next LPG meeting on Emotional Intelligence is also one of those 5 things.
PS: For more information about Friday's LPG meeting: here is the link http://middlewaygroup.com/partners/leadership-practice-group-lpg/copy_of_emotional-intelligence-session-1
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Monday, November 24, 2008
7 Habits of High Effective IT Projects
I am doing quite a bit of looking around at Plone and web companies that build things with Plone.
Found this company and its blog on Agile:
http://agileblog.3months.com/2007/12/10/the-7-habits-of-highly-effective-it-projects/#comments
Found this company and its blog on Agile:
http://agileblog.3months.com/2007/12/10/the-7-habits-of-highly-effective-it-projects/#comments
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Synchronicity --There are no accidents
It was one September Saturday late afternoon I found myself at Sam's Club. I really didn't really want to be there. After exercising at the RAC, I was tired and really wanted to go home. But knowing that we ran out of orange juice, I forced myself to be there for a quick trip. As I got close to the grocery aisle, I ran into a friend. She looked a bit harried and was pushing a shopping cart with her two young boys riding in it.
Running into someone you know shopping is not that amazing, but this is different. This was a close friend who happened to have accepted my invitation to my retirement open house party the previous Saturday but did not come.
"Why didn't you come to my party?" I asked her accusingly. Being a close friend, I knew I could kid her. And it was an open house, a no show was really not a big deal.
Her response surprised me, "Why aren't you at your party now?
As we looked at each other, we immediately understood what happened. She got the date wrong by one week. In fact, she and her kids, after shopping at Sam's, were on their way to my house.
We both realized too that if we had not run into each other at Sam's, she and her family would have shown up at my house. And her kids, all excited with the visit, would have been totally disappointed that after all the anticipation there really was no party.
But we were spared of that disappointment. So was it just luck? Or, is there a larger scheme at work that synchronizes human affairs? What do you think?
Running into someone you know shopping is not that amazing, but this is different. This was a close friend who happened to have accepted my invitation to my retirement open house party the previous Saturday but did not come.
"Why didn't you come to my party?" I asked her accusingly. Being a close friend, I knew I could kid her. And it was an open house, a no show was really not a big deal.
Her response surprised me, "Why aren't you at your party now?
As we looked at each other, we immediately understood what happened. She got the date wrong by one week. In fact, she and her kids, after shopping at Sam's, were on their way to my house.
We both realized too that if we had not run into each other at Sam's, she and her family would have shown up at my house. And her kids, all excited with the visit, would have been totally disappointed that after all the anticipation there really was no party.
But we were spared of that disappointment. So was it just luck? Or, is there a larger scheme at work that synchronizes human affairs? What do you think?
Thursday, November 6, 2008
11/14 LPG Meeting Emotional Intelligence
I have previously blogged about synchronicity, which I truely believe is related to Covey's Habit 7: Synergize. Magic happens if you network, if you look for ways to help others and have the intention to create value.
As a result of my association with China Cultural Class in Rochester, I got to know Abbey at RCTC. Not only does she manage business eduction programs at RCTC, she also gives training of Emotional Intelligence.
Since LPG members have expressed an interest in discussing EQ, I invited her, and she graciously accepted, to lead us in the discussions of that topic.
You won't want to miss this learning opportunity. Here is a link to the meeting.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Stress Management
One of the ways to manage stress is not to take things personally which means become detached from the situation.
Learn to stop you mind-chatters so they don't snow-ball. Learn to have a different perspective on things.
Last time, I took members through an Avatar exercise called This and That.
Instructions:
1. Pick a situation (a problem for example)
2. Think of the situation as this situation.
3. Think of the situation as that situation.
Repeat steps 2 and 3 several times.
Folks felt that just by doing that they got a sense of separation from the situation and less wallowed in the situation.
Today, I talked to one of the LPGers. He said that he tried the exercise out earlier in the week and felt a relief.
I am glad to hear that.
Even in my "retirement" from IBM, I sometimes feel stressed, primarily because I'm trying to start a web presence (which I hope will turn into a company). There are so many things I have to do and to learn. But using the This and That exercise does help me to stop my self-talks and have another perspective.
For this Friday's LPG, we will continue on Session 2 of Stress Management based on Don't Sweat the Small Stuff."
Learn to stop you mind-chatters so they don't snow-ball. Learn to have a different perspective on things.
Last time, I took members through an Avatar exercise called This and That.
Instructions:
1. Pick a situation (a problem for example)
2. Think of the situation as this situation.
3. Think of the situation as that situation.
Repeat steps 2 and 3 several times.
Folks felt that just by doing that they got a sense of separation from the situation and less wallowed in the situation.
Today, I talked to one of the LPGers. He said that he tried the exercise out earlier in the week and felt a relief.
I am glad to hear that.
Even in my "retirement" from IBM, I sometimes feel stressed, primarily because I'm trying to start a web presence (which I hope will turn into a company). There are so many things I have to do and to learn. But using the This and That exercise does help me to stop my self-talks and have another perspective.
For this Friday's LPG, we will continue on Session 2 of Stress Management based on Don't Sweat the Small Stuff."
Friday, October 10, 2008
10/10 Meeting Agenda and Discussion Materials Stress Management
We had a wonderful meeting last Friday on Stress Management. Present were: Roger, Al, Jingli, Sandra, Eldon, Brent, Brian, Hoa, Jindong and Gilma:
I triggered the conversation with the following slide deck:
http://sites.google.com/site/leadershippracticegroup/Home/Phase-2-Plan/Crisis-management
As usual, the best way to run LPG was to ask questions.
It's my belief that if I do well to
"Don't sweat the small stuff .... " I will be less stressed.
And most folks would agree with that common sense approach. But,
What is the fine line between letting go and living in denial until little problems accumulate and become out of control, such as our current global financial crisis.
What is the difference between: Make peace with imperfections and procrastination.
We might all want to ponder over it a bit.
We will pick up our conversations next time at Slide 9: "Don't interrupt others or finish their sentences." This particular small stuff has the additonal benefit of not causing irritation and stress on someone else. Have you noticed that there are people whose mere presence brings steadiness and calmness while there are others who causes uneasiness and tension. This little trick may be the difference.
Also, there was agreement at the meeting that the small stuff book might be good for folks to obtain and for the group to drill deeper.
I triggered the conversation with the following slide deck:
http://sites.google.com/site/leadershippracticegroup/Home/Phase-2-Plan/Crisis-management
As usual, the best way to run LPG was to ask questions.
It's my belief that if I do well to
"Don't sweat the small stuff .... " I will be less stressed.
And most folks would agree with that common sense approach. But,
What is the fine line between letting go and living in denial until little problems accumulate and become out of control, such as our current global financial crisis.
What is the difference between: Make peace with imperfections and procrastination.
We might all want to ponder over it a bit.
We will pick up our conversations next time at Slide 9: "Don't interrupt others or finish their sentences." This particular small stuff has the additonal benefit of not causing irritation and stress on someone else. Have you noticed that there are people whose mere presence brings steadiness and calmness while there are others who causes uneasiness and tension. This little trick may be the difference.
Also, there was agreement at the meeting that the small stuff book might be good for folks to obtain and for the group to drill deeper.
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Stress Management
The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude -- William James
Stress management starts with not letting negative aspects of life blow out of proportions and cloud our outlook on life.
"We often rush around looking busy, trying to solve problems, but in reality, we are often compounding them. Because everything seems like such a big deal, we end up spending our life dealing with one drama after another, " writes Richard Carlson in Don't sweat the Small Stuff ... and it's all small stuff.
In this week's LPG, Al would engage you in talking about small stuff. What small stuff we face everyday? And how we tend to view them? And are there different approaches in dealing with them?
My own experience is that if I am successful in not letting small stuff grates me, I am less stressed.
Won't you bring you lunch bag, come to LPG and learn how not to let small stuff get on your nerves?
Stress management starts with not letting negative aspects of life blow out of proportions and cloud our outlook on life.
"We often rush around looking busy, trying to solve problems, but in reality, we are often compounding them. Because everything seems like such a big deal, we end up spending our life dealing with one drama after another, " writes Richard Carlson in Don't sweat the Small Stuff ... and it's all small stuff.
In this week's LPG, Al would engage you in talking about small stuff. What small stuff we face everyday? And how we tend to view them? And are there different approaches in dealing with them?
My own experience is that if I am successful in not letting small stuff grates me, I am less stressed.
Won't you bring you lunch bag, come to LPG and learn how not to let small stuff get on your nerves?
Habits
Here are some memorable quotes about habits:
Jack Canfield, The Power of Focus:
Jack Canfield, The Power of Focus:
- Your habits will determine your future.
- Your habits will determine your quality of life.
- Successful people have successful habits.
- The results of your habits usually don't show up until much later in life.
- Developing successful habits takes time.
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Vision realignment
Minutes:
We had a great LPG vision re-alignment meeting last Friday. LPGers present were: Parul, Eldon, Rich, Ji-Yun, Tracy, Al, Sandra, Hung and Joe. We also welcomed Brian who works at Crenlo as a guest to LPG.
Al kicked off the meeting with this slide deck to give a reference of the 2008 LPG program conceived early in the year. Now that we have finished Phase 1 of the program, it's time to review if it needs to adjust to reflect what we have learned and to better meet members' needs.
Donna then facilitated a discussion on vision re-alignment, based on getting the team to think about and discuss the following three basic questions.
1. What could this group create together that would benefit all of you?
2. What have inspired you to come here?
3. What can we do to create this environment.
Sandra took the following notes:
Q1: What could this group create together that wold benefit all of you?
Q3: What can we do to create this environment?
Action Plan
We had a great LPG vision re-alignment meeting last Friday. LPGers present were: Parul, Eldon, Rich, Ji-Yun, Tracy, Al, Sandra, Hung and Joe. We also welcomed Brian who works at Crenlo as a guest to LPG.
Al kicked off the meeting with this slide deck to give a reference of the 2008 LPG program conceived early in the year. Now that we have finished Phase 1 of the program, it's time to review if it needs to adjust to reflect what we have learned and to better meet members' needs.
Donna then facilitated a discussion on vision re-alignment, based on getting the team to think about and discuss the following three basic questions.
1. What could this group create together that would benefit all of you?
2. What have inspired you to come here?
3. What can we do to create this environment.
Sandra took the following notes:
Q1: What could this group create together that wold benefit all of you?
- Eldon: Networking with people who have similar goals
- Tracy: Learn from other people's experiences
- Ji-Yun: Ceate a learning space where we will be a group of non-judgmental people, we will be safe to show our failures, get support, share our experiences and experiment
- Al: Be able to expand this group to other groups
- Help myself/inspire my leadership/management skills
- Working together to inspire ourselves
- Status check - are there any better ideas? what am i doing is right? Am I on the right track?
- Time to introspect
- Be among friends, no competition, no ego, judgment-free zone.
- Get away from work stress to be able to give and take and fee safe
Q3: What can we do to create this environment?
- Eldon: No IBM Competencies( they are more on how to be a good employee than a good leader)
- Let's work with a true goal - let's focus on how to be a better manager by learning how to organize yourself(that will naturally render more productivity)
- Time management
- How to communicate better with your peers. How to engage in a conversation (social skills)
- How o review the World around you. Build a shared vision
- How to understand other people's culture / Be more savvy in different communication styles based on different cultures
- EQ - Emotional Intelligence
- Take classes @ IBM and discuss them as a group
- Learn about stress management,Learn about Crisis management
- How to handle delicate situations such as being a manager who has to layoff people.
- Have the experts coming in to specific topics
- More real life examples and case studies to trigger discussions
- Logistics - every member to take turn to lead a topic, must be committed,
- On topics like stress management, try bring in "expert resources" such as video, or book, or articles
- Moderator role is important for meeting to ensure the meeting is interesting and get everyone engaged
- May be a list of moderator do's and don'ts
- How how feedback to the moderator to help them improve. Emphasize the positive, what they do well
- Group size - keep it to a cozy size to enhance discussions and further develop trust
Action Plan
- For next meeting LPG Advisory members to map the ideas expressed and captured into a program
- Ask for members to sign up to contribute to the details of the program topics
- Meeting after next - kick off the program
Friday, September 26, 2008
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Vison and Diversity in Business
Our next LPG meeting is a vision re-alignment meeting in which we will get everyone to review, re-think and voice what we want to get out of LPG. Donna will moderate the brainstorming session. You might think of this meeting as practicing Habit 2: Begin with the End In Mind.
Here is a link to our existing LPG program as background to the meeting.
Look forward to seeing everyone there.
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More Sharpening the Saw Examples:
Last Saturday a number of LPGers got to do more networking with what the community has to offer. A number of us attended Rochester Area Chamber of Commerce's Diversity in Business Conference. sponsored by Think, Rochester Area Foundation, Merrill Lynch, Rochester Women and IBM, among others.
Not only did we get to hear great presentations on things like how to start a business, how to finance your business, we also got to network with many resources and people who can help us explore different business ideas and to make progress to persue our own plans.
Out of the conference, I myself got more inspired to move forward and so did a number of friends who really got a jumpstart to do more toward their dreams. We even start to talk about starting a "mind-mapping" group for like-minded folks to motivate and help each other to flesh out our business ideas and to push each other to keep moving forward.
An event like that is clearly an example of Sharpening You Saw in the social dimension and has the potential to spring more ideas and actions.
Here is a link to our existing LPG program as background to the meeting.
Look forward to seeing everyone there.
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More Sharpening the Saw Examples:
Last Saturday a number of LPGers got to do more networking with what the community has to offer. A number of us attended Rochester Area Chamber of Commerce's Diversity in Business Conference. sponsored by Think, Rochester Area Foundation, Merrill Lynch, Rochester Women and IBM, among others.
Not only did we get to hear great presentations on things like how to start a business, how to finance your business, we also got to network with many resources and people who can help us explore different business ideas and to make progress to persue our own plans.
Out of the conference, I myself got more inspired to move forward and so did a number of friends who really got a jumpstart to do more toward their dreams. We even start to talk about starting a "mind-mapping" group for like-minded folks to motivate and help each other to flesh out our business ideas and to push each other to keep moving forward.
An event like that is clearly an example of Sharpening You Saw in the social dimension and has the potential to spring more ideas and actions.
Sunday, September 21, 2008
Peace Day 2008
A friend sent me this link to me because today happens to be Peace Day. Today is also special day because it is the day before my birthday and it's a good time to think about the bigger purpose in life.
The video inspires me and touches something deep inside me and that might be where the spiritual dimension resides. I am reminded once again the importance of Habit 7: Sharpening the saw (continual renewal).
Sept. 21 - PEACE DAY 2008
http://www.heartmath.com/peace/?mtcEmail=rob@cybella.us&mtcCampaign=2026
Living Life with Sacred Intentionshttp://www.wellnessforall.org/ - Sacred Intentions Center http://www.sacredintentions.org/ - Iowa Holistic Resources
The video inspires me and touches something deep inside me and that might be where the spiritual dimension resides. I am reminded once again the importance of Habit 7: Sharpening the saw (continual renewal).
Sept. 21 - PEACE DAY 2008
http://www.heartmath.com/peace/?mtcEmail=rob@cybella.us&mtcCampaign=2026
Living Life with Sacred Intentionshttp://www.wellnessforall.org/ - Sacred Intentions Center http://www.sacredintentions.org/ - Iowa Holistic Resources
Monday, September 15, 2008
What set of topics or book should we do next?
Now that we have completed another cycle of Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,
I am soliciting discussions and suggestions on what book, or sets of topics we as a group should study.
So, if you have any suggestions or ideas, please post them here.
Google Blog has a label feature to categorize blog entries. I have labeled this entry "Begin" because it has the feel of working on Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind.
Deciding what next book or set of leadership topics to study and practice probably require us to also contemplate and visualize what the core value of LPG is. Our next meeting will be facilitated by Donna to revisit the current LPG vision and spirit to see if it needs to be realigned or evolved now that our current group structure has been changing since the beginning of year.
In any case, it won't hurt to start listing what books might consider using for the Phase 2.
Suggestions so far:
8th Habit--Find your own voice and helping others find theirs by Stephen Covey
Developing the leader within you or The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership or Becoming an person of influence by John C. Maxwell.
If you have any suggestions feel free to post.
I am soliciting discussions and suggestions on what book, or sets of topics we as a group should study.
So, if you have any suggestions or ideas, please post them here.
Google Blog has a label feature to categorize blog entries. I have labeled this entry "Begin" because it has the feel of working on Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind.
Deciding what next book or set of leadership topics to study and practice probably require us to also contemplate and visualize what the core value of LPG is. Our next meeting will be facilitated by Donna to revisit the current LPG vision and spirit to see if it needs to be realigned or evolved now that our current group structure has been changing since the beginning of year.
In any case, it won't hurt to start listing what books might consider using for the Phase 2.
Suggestions so far:
8th Habit--Find your own voice and helping others find theirs by Stephen Covey
Developing the leader within you or The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership or Becoming an person of influence by John C. Maxwell.
If you have any suggestions feel free to post.
Friday, September 12, 2008
Sharpening the Saw - Session 2
Despite a meeting conflict with IBM Toastmaster speech contest, we had one of the best turnouts in today's LPG meeting--Session 2 on the habit of Sharpening Your Saw led by Jingdong.
Attendees include: Tracy, Roger, Hung, Al, Ji-Yun, Manjusha, Joe, Hannah, Jingdong, Jingli
Points brought up include:
In the mental dimension, might try:
a. Hanna mentioned telling positive stories to yourself to overcome the mind's self-doubts
b. Jingdong reported learning a new programming language .. Perl
2. In social dimension
a. Al reported making attempts to connect to some one who now works at U of M.
Regarding socializing between management and staff, how do we make the relationship more trusting, open and two-way. Comments:
a. There is an Asian cultural element of observing hierarchy which makes it difficult for staff to "talk up"
b. But, Tracy said hold on ... not just Asians, even American employees have difficulty to initiate a social relationship with their manager
c. Trust, openness is key. How?
d. Al "got on the soap box" a bit :-), and reminded all that ... Yes, there are probably all kinds of good reasons (excuses) not to initiate a relationship with someone (whether your manager or anyone). Reasons include culture, personal or otherwise that puts up cautions such as one must observe perceived hierarchy or got to wait for the boss to initiate a socializing ritual. But, we are in LPG to live a "leadership life" and to practice effective habits. Habit 1: Be proactive says we own it. We don't have to wait. We take responsibility. It is not easy to initiate a talk to someone or to be vulnerable... but if we are true to our journey, we must continue to stretch ourselves. Sometimes, we just need to be a bit uncomfortable. Sharpening your saw is about continuing doing these things and it will get easier. Was I too preachy?
Other noteworthy points:
Handle doubts ... "You fake it until you know it." In other words, develop a belief or a habit that says, "Things always work out for me."
"Managers like all people appreciate being asked to help."
"What is the harm in asking for help?" Except one's pride, or ego, or fear of being turned down.
Homework assignment ... watch ourselves and our behavior to sharpen our saw to network, eg.
To reply to email more promptly; instead of texting or emailing--pick up the phone and call the person.
Attendees include: Tracy, Roger, Hung, Al, Ji-Yun, Manjusha, Joe, Hannah, Jingdong, Jingli
Points brought up include:
In the mental dimension, might try:
a. Hanna mentioned telling positive stories to yourself to overcome the mind's self-doubts
b. Jingdong reported learning a new programming language .. Perl
2. In social dimension
a. Al reported making attempts to connect to some one who now works at U of M.
Regarding socializing between management and staff, how do we make the relationship more trusting, open and two-way. Comments:
a. There is an Asian cultural element of observing hierarchy which makes it difficult for staff to "talk up"
b. But, Tracy said hold on ... not just Asians, even American employees have difficulty to initiate a social relationship with their manager
c. Trust, openness is key. How?
d. Al "got on the soap box" a bit :-), and reminded all that ... Yes, there are probably all kinds of good reasons (excuses) not to initiate a relationship with someone (whether your manager or anyone). Reasons include culture, personal or otherwise that puts up cautions such as one must observe perceived hierarchy or got to wait for the boss to initiate a socializing ritual. But, we are in LPG to live a "leadership life" and to practice effective habits. Habit 1: Be proactive says we own it. We don't have to wait. We take responsibility. It is not easy to initiate a talk to someone or to be vulnerable... but if we are true to our journey, we must continue to stretch ourselves. Sometimes, we just need to be a bit uncomfortable. Sharpening your saw is about continuing doing these things and it will get easier. Was I too preachy?
Other noteworthy points:
Handle doubts ... "You fake it until you know it." In other words, develop a belief or a habit that says, "Things always work out for me."
"Managers like all people appreciate being asked to help."
"What is the harm in asking for help?" Except one's pride, or ego, or fear of being turned down.
Homework assignment ... watch ourselves and our behavior to sharpen our saw to network, eg.
To reply to email more promptly; instead of texting or emailing--pick up the phone and call the person.
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Pizza Night and Sharpening the Social Saw
It seemed a long time ago that during our practicing of Habit 3: Put First Things First that in responding to Roger's question about the one thing each of us might do that would make a big difference toward our life purpose that I said:
"To look for and join a non-profit volunteer organization that serves others."
After looking at several clubs and on Roger's invitation and encouragement, I finally joined Rochester Kiwanis West.
It has already opened many opportunities for me to sharpen my saw on the social networking dimension. I have learned about community projects like:
Coyote Ridge Summer Camps, Highway Clean Up, JM 4-H student of the month, etc.
I have also re-connected with some old IBM friends who are playing significant roles in local businesses and higher education programs. I guess I must be making progress in Habit 7 in the social/emotional area.
And if you are looking for an opportunity to do Habit 7, here is opportunity to join us at our fundraiser night on September 22 and contribute to worthwhile humanitarian causes, such as:
For an evening of fun and great food!
"To look for and join a non-profit volunteer organization that serves others."
After looking at several clubs and on Roger's invitation and encouragement, I finally joined Rochester Kiwanis West.
It has already opened many opportunities for me to sharpen my saw on the social networking dimension. I have learned about community projects like:
Coyote Ridge Summer Camps, Highway Clean Up, JM 4-H student of the month, etc.
I have also re-connected with some old IBM friends who are playing significant roles in local businesses and higher education programs. I guess I must be making progress in Habit 7 in the social/emotional area.
And if you are looking for an opportunity to do Habit 7, here is opportunity to join us at our fundraiser night on September 22 and contribute to worthwhile humanitarian causes, such as:
Head Start ● Child Care Resource and Referral ● Ability Building Center ● Christmas Anonymous
Read Around The World ● Crisis Nursery ● Kids Against Hunger
Pizza Night
Rochester West Kiwanis Fundraising Event
Join the Rochester West Kiwanis Club
For an evening of fun and great food!
Pizza Ranch
1580 2nd Ave SW
Stewartville, MN
Monday, September 22, 2008
4:30pm – 9:00pm
A portion of the evening’s profits and all tips will help the Rochester West Kiwanis Club to support the area’s children and youth through programs such as:
Head Start ● Child Care Resource and Referral ● Ability Building Center ● Christmas Anonymous
Read Around The World ● Crisis Nursery ● Kids Against Hunger
Thursday, September 4, 2008
9/4/08 LPG Logistics Planning Meeting
We used today's LPG meeting to discuss logistics for our evolving LPG. The following action plan was agreed upon:
1. Changing meeting time for LPG. Starting with the next meeting, LPG will meet on the second and fourth Friday every month.
2. The next four meetings will have the following agenda:
4. Team agreed on using the following web collaboration technologies:
6. Misc. Within IBM, there are two distribution lists: ANG-LPG which contains LPG extended members, LPG Core which as the core members. We should make sure that advisory members have admin access to the distribution list. At certain time, we should make a point to update the list. Maybe after kickoff.
See you all on 9/12 for Session 2. Sandra will send out invitations. Thank you Sandra!
1. Changing meeting time for LPG. Starting with the next meeting, LPG will meet on the second and fourth Friday every month.
2. The next four meetings will have the following agenda:
- 9/12: Jingdong to lead Session 2 of Habit 7: Sharpening the saw. (in the meantime, a reminder to all LPGers :-) ... "be mindful of doing this habit, look for opportunities to sharpen your saw eg. put together an education plan, are you spending time to renew each of the 4 dimensions: physical, mental, social and spirtual? are you making a commitment?).
- 9/26: Team discussions and brainstorming to re-align the team ... to be facilitated by Donna, topics include: mission statement of LPG? And what do we study and practice after 7 Habits? Meeting will be open to all LPG members but Advisory Members should be there.
- 10/10: Fall Kick off meeting LPG: Open to all LPG members, Might want to invite guests, We will present vision statement of LPG and the proposed detail of fall program
- 10/24: Fall LPG starts
4. Team agreed on using the following web collaboration technologies:
- Google blog for indepth reflection of LPG topics
- Google web (a kind of wiki) for more static content for LPG
- Facebook and its Leadership Practice Group group on Facebook to establish a community presence on the fastest growing social networking platforms. Goals include: reaching out to wider network (that was how Tracy found us), "Sharpening the saw" on this fast growing collaboration platform (it's up to you to learn as much or as little as you want or have time for .. but you will generally be pleasantly surprised to find a lot of friends and most likely your tennage kids already on facebook). So, at least please make sure you have access on Facebook. Think of it as your action for shapening your saw on web 2.0.
6. Misc. Within IBM, there are two distribution lists: ANG-LPG which contains LPG extended members, LPG Core which as the core members. We should make sure that advisory members have admin access to the distribution list. At certain time, we should make a point to update the list. Maybe after kickoff.
See you all on 9/12 for Session 2. Sandra will send out invitations. Thank you Sandra!
Monday, September 1, 2008
Labor of Patience
How would you like to make 100 dollars in three hours of doing nothing.
Imagine the offer ...
Sounds too good to be true. And what is the catch?
Last night, my wife, my daughter visiting from Chicago and I went downtown for a quick bite to eat. One thing about Rochester downtown is that on the night before Labor Day, the town is really quite quiet, especially so on a Sunday night. Many restaurants seemed to know that it would be a slow night and were closed. But this new restaurant we wanted to try was open and it got benefited from little competition downtown on a Sunday night. Benefit was not the right word, it was caught unprepared.
After quite a wait, when we got to our table, the owner confided in us that they are really understaffed tonight. "We had no idea on a Sunday night and on a Labor Day weekend, we would have a full house," he said, "Service was going to be slow."
We said OK. We smiled we understood. We have been too slow restaurants before, we could be patient.
Time ticked by. More than two hours later, the owner gingerly came and told us, "We have a slight problem."
They had to prepare more ingredients for our order and it would take another 2o more minutes. To make up for the inconvenience, he would give us a 50 dollar credit for the next meal which he promised would be quicker. He also gave us a choice whether we would stay for another 25 minutes or not as they finish preparing the ingredients for our meal which he would give to us free.
We looked at each other and decided why not. We had no place to go. The place is nice. In the last two hours we sat at the table, we we had settled into a pretty good conversation about politics, work, life and books--things that as a family we seldom found time to talk about.
Finally, when our meal did show, it was delicious, maybe we were just hungry. And we were the only customers left at the restaurant. Looking around, there just us us three and the people who ran the restaurant left -- it was as if we had become their family.
After we finished, the owner and we had a good conversation. We found out he came from Mexico. and had worked at Dell in Austin. He found out I was retired. He took my wife's business card. We got to know a new friend. He was very sorry about the service. He was sincere, nice and warm. I am sure that his restaurant will get better once he gets a feel for the traffic. We had a great meal for free and also got a 50$ couple to come back.
So, that's how you can make 100 dollars for just being kind and patient for three hours, in other words for doing nothing. Besides, we really had no place to go to anyway and might as well appreciate what the universe had to offer.
And that was probably a spiritual act.
Imagine the offer ...
You get to have drinks, sit in a nice room, enjoy the artwork on the wall, watch and appreciate actors who perform various shows with great dexterity. At the end, you will have a nice meal and get to have conversations with loved ones that are deeper than anything you have done for a long time and meet some really nice people. And yes, at the end you will have earned the equivalent of one hundred dollars.
Sounds too good to be true. And what is the catch?
Last night, my wife, my daughter visiting from Chicago and I went downtown for a quick bite to eat. One thing about Rochester downtown is that on the night before Labor Day, the town is really quite quiet, especially so on a Sunday night. Many restaurants seemed to know that it would be a slow night and were closed. But this new restaurant we wanted to try was open and it got benefited from little competition downtown on a Sunday night. Benefit was not the right word, it was caught unprepared.
After quite a wait, when we got to our table, the owner confided in us that they are really understaffed tonight. "We had no idea on a Sunday night and on a Labor Day weekend, we would have a full house," he said, "Service was going to be slow."
We said OK. We smiled we understood. We have been too slow restaurants before, we could be patient.
Time ticked by. More than two hours later, the owner gingerly came and told us, "We have a slight problem."
They had to prepare more ingredients for our order and it would take another 2o more minutes. To make up for the inconvenience, he would give us a 50 dollar credit for the next meal which he promised would be quicker. He also gave us a choice whether we would stay for another 25 minutes or not as they finish preparing the ingredients for our meal which he would give to us free.
We looked at each other and decided why not. We had no place to go. The place is nice. In the last two hours we sat at the table, we we had settled into a pretty good conversation about politics, work, life and books--things that as a family we seldom found time to talk about.
Finally, when our meal did show, it was delicious, maybe we were just hungry. And we were the only customers left at the restaurant. Looking around, there just us us three and the people who ran the restaurant left -- it was as if we had become their family.
After we finished, the owner and we had a good conversation. We found out he came from Mexico. and had worked at Dell in Austin. He found out I was retired. He took my wife's business card. We got to know a new friend. He was very sorry about the service. He was sincere, nice and warm. I am sure that his restaurant will get better once he gets a feel for the traffic. We had a great meal for free and also got a 50$ couple to come back.
So, that's how you can make 100 dollars for just being kind and patient for three hours, in other words for doing nothing. Besides, we really had no place to go to anyway and might as well appreciate what the universe had to offer.
And that was probably a spiritual act.
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Habit 7: Sharpening the saw
Jingdong led the Session 1 of our discussion (his slides can be found here) and our practice of Habit 7: Sharpening the saw. Covey teaches that there are four dimensions to Sharpening the Saw:
1. It's hard to sustain an exercise program
2. Not easy to find time to improve skills. How about from time to time look at your calendar and see how much time was devoted to learning?
3. What is the spiritual dimension?
- Mental: reading, visualizing, planning, writing
- Physical: exercise, nutrition, stress management
- Social/emotional: service, empathy, synergy, intrinsic security
- Spiritual: value clarification & commitment, study & meditation
1. It's hard to sustain an exercise program
- Some do this a bit better than others; some of us go to an athletic club, some have before but fallen out of the habit, some walk; some of us would go to the gym saying that "I would take it easy this time. Just to relax and go to to the hang out or do the sauna". and once there, would talk ourselves into doing more and end up doing exercises. One has to trick one's mind once in awhile.
2. Not easy to find time to improve skills. How about from time to time look at your calendar and see how much time was devoted to learning?
3. What is the spiritual dimension?
- Some follow a religious tradition; some do not or are agnostic.
- But there seem to be a common core that says we may be more mysterious, more meaningful, more majestic than simply our physical makeup of cells and matter. Regardless of what we call that, there is a sense we are deeper and more noble. Spiritual renewal connects us to that sense. Technique such as meditation, taking a walk in the nature, noticing and sensing we are one with nature and with other beings renews that connection. Humans at moments of stillness would recognize acts of kindness, generosity, forgiveness, and compassion as something higher than our own worldly concerns of individual survival. We have a conscience. Being aware that we have a conscience may just be a spiritual experience. Spiritual renewal lets one be connected to that sense oneness. More practice would enable one to be less judgmental, live with less regret, with more focus on the present moment.
- Practice small acts of kindness, open the door for someone, smile at someone, wait in line with more patience, appreciate everyone including those who appear to be rude and difficult, take time to rest your mind. let go, forgive someone ... doing these things may just be the exercise to be connected to our spirit.
Saturday, August 23, 2008
New Members to 8/22 LPG Meeting
After so many times using the 006-2 conference room, it was refreshing to meet at the IBM lobby conference room. Thanks, Roger for setting it up. The room is a keeper.
It was my first time coming into IBM as a guest. The lobby receptionist has been acquainted with me for many years. Nonetheless, she smiled and I smiled as she insisted on seeing a picture ID from me to prove I was indeed the person my guest badge said I was before she would give the badge to me.
Who am I is a good question to ponder over (I think I will blog about this as part of the spiritual dimension of Sharpening the Saw).
At the meeting we welcomed back Ji-Yung. Also, we were really glad that Vardhini and Tracy attended LPG for the first time.
Vardhini, like Ji-Yung, came to know me and about LPG from our association with Rochester Diversity Council. We three have recently got "certified" to be facilitators for K-12 prejudice reduction workshop. There is obvious synergy between DC and LPG.
Tracy saw LPG on FaceBook and made the connection this is a good group to join. She used Facebook's "request to join" function to ask to be part of LPG.
Since I didn't quite remember Tracy but noticed that she and Brian were friends on Facebook, I asked Brian and our LPG advisory members to second the membership request. Even before Brian was able to email me how glad he was with Tracy joining, Sandra already sent me a reply saying that "what a small world" ... Tracy sits close to her at IBM and yes she will be a great addition. Brian's seconding email -- when it did arrive -- became a resounding second of Sandra's second. Indeed, Tracy, welcome to LPG.
I had to tell this story because it speaks to me about the synergy of connecting the dots. It confirms once again when we send good will to the world, it will come back.
It is a small world.
It was my first time coming into IBM as a guest. The lobby receptionist has been acquainted with me for many years. Nonetheless, she smiled and I smiled as she insisted on seeing a picture ID from me to prove I was indeed the person my guest badge said I was before she would give the badge to me.
Who am I is a good question to ponder over (I think I will blog about this as part of the spiritual dimension of Sharpening the Saw).
At the meeting we welcomed back Ji-Yung. Also, we were really glad that Vardhini and Tracy attended LPG for the first time.
Vardhini, like Ji-Yung, came to know me and about LPG from our association with Rochester Diversity Council. We three have recently got "certified" to be facilitators for K-12 prejudice reduction workshop. There is obvious synergy between DC and LPG.
Tracy saw LPG on FaceBook and made the connection this is a good group to join. She used Facebook's "request to join" function to ask to be part of LPG.
Since I didn't quite remember Tracy but noticed that she and Brian were friends on Facebook, I asked Brian and our LPG advisory members to second the membership request. Even before Brian was able to email me how glad he was with Tracy joining, Sandra already sent me a reply saying that "what a small world" ... Tracy sits close to her at IBM and yes she will be a great addition. Brian's seconding email -- when it did arrive -- became a resounding second of Sandra's second. Indeed, Tracy, welcome to LPG.
I had to tell this story because it speaks to me about the synergy of connecting the dots. It confirms once again when we send good will to the world, it will come back.
It is a small world.
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Sharpening the Saw References
Some references on Sharpening the saw:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/11/sharpen-the-saw/
Some quotes I like:
Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he and should be. Goethe
Service is the rent we pay for the privilege of living on this earth. -- N. Eldon Tanner
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/11/sharpen-the-saw/
Some quotes I like:
Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he and should be. Goethe
Service is the rent we pay for the privilege of living on this earth. -- N. Eldon Tanner
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
LPG Group on Facebook
I am learning more about how to manage group on Facebook. Here is link to LPG group.
This is in keeping with the habit of Sharpening the Saw that we will be focusing on for the next two weeks, starting with next Friday's meeting.
Social networking platform, like Facebook, is the de facto way for people to collaborate. In addition, applications developers are offering app's that add to the platform.
Pretty cool!
Habit 7: Sharpening the saw
We can all relate to Covey's story about the man trying to saw down a tree with a dull saw. When asked why he doesn't take a break for a few minutes and sharpen the saw, he said, "I don't have time. I am too busy sawing!"
As I looked back in my years with IBM, there were periods of time I did well in taking time to learn new skills, keep up with technologies and renew my competencies. I am now glad for having done that though there were times it seemed in the busy corporate life even finding time to eat lunch was not easy.
I am glad that I became a Toastmaster and continually work on improving my communication skills. Along the way, I met new friends and became much more confident in making prepared speeches, running meetings, giving impromptu remarks. I also learn to better provide constructive feedback for fellow toastmasters and above all become more comfortable in accepting comments and evaluations from other people. That is say I have become more thick skinned.
For physical well being, I worked out at the gym almost every day for 1/2 hour or so. I have my wife to thank for that. There was a time when I was really a couch potato. I still remembered how tough it was when I first started this daily exercise regiment. I was huffing and puffing and wanted to quit.
For mental relaxation and spiritual growth, I learned to practice Avatar which has been described as western Zen. I have learned to be aware of my thoughts. I am getting better to direct my will and my attention (ie my mind) towards creating experiences that I want. In other words, I am better in doing Covey's habit 1 because I am better at using the gap between stimulus and response.
I also know that like any others habits, Sharpening the Saw is a constant renewal that I must consciously practice or risk falling off the wagon to indifference. This is especially true in my situation as a retiree.
Will I succumb to the easy and mindless life of channel surfing in search of the next Olympics event or will I rise up to the occasion to direct my will, my intention and my attention to grow, to learn and develop skills--to sharpen my saw. And what types of saw should I sharpen in my new act.
I am glad I have LPG to help me make the right choices.
As I looked back in my years with IBM, there were periods of time I did well in taking time to learn new skills, keep up with technologies and renew my competencies. I am now glad for having done that though there were times it seemed in the busy corporate life even finding time to eat lunch was not easy.
I am glad that I became a Toastmaster and continually work on improving my communication skills. Along the way, I met new friends and became much more confident in making prepared speeches, running meetings, giving impromptu remarks. I also learn to better provide constructive feedback for fellow toastmasters and above all become more comfortable in accepting comments and evaluations from other people. That is say I have become more thick skinned.
For physical well being, I worked out at the gym almost every day for 1/2 hour or so. I have my wife to thank for that. There was a time when I was really a couch potato. I still remembered how tough it was when I first started this daily exercise regiment. I was huffing and puffing and wanted to quit.
For mental relaxation and spiritual growth, I learned to practice Avatar which has been described as western Zen. I have learned to be aware of my thoughts. I am getting better to direct my will and my attention (ie my mind) towards creating experiences that I want. In other words, I am better in doing Covey's habit 1 because I am better at using the gap between stimulus and response.
I also know that like any others habits, Sharpening the Saw is a constant renewal that I must consciously practice or risk falling off the wagon to indifference. This is especially true in my situation as a retiree.
Will I succumb to the easy and mindless life of channel surfing in search of the next Olympics event or will I rise up to the occasion to direct my will, my intention and my attention to grow, to learn and develop skills--to sharpen my saw. And what types of saw should I sharpen in my new act.
I am glad I have LPG to help me make the right choices.
Saturday, August 9, 2008
8/8/08 LPG Meeting on Habit 6: Synergize
It was a special LPG meeting. For the first time, we held it outside IBM which was befitting the first day of my IBM retirement--a new beginning for me.
We socialized, had pizza for lunch, then Hoa read to the group the heart-felt email from Gilma. Her words and her voice all the way from Brazil touched all of us deeply. We felt her presence.
Thanks to both LPG Core and LPG Extended members who made it such a special occasion for me. Thanks for giving me the Re-think diary and the Blanchard book, Live What You Love. I am grateful for being part of this wonderful group of people.
My retiring from IBM offers synergistic opportunity to bring the spirit of LPG to a wider circle. (Welcome Ji-Yun to LPG. You might just be our link to Mayo Clinic). LPG started four years ago in a conversation with a couple of IBM Asian Networking Group (ANG) officers. There was a feeling that ANG needed to encourage and enable leadership development of its members. And somewhat in jest, I mentioned I would like to do something for ANG that could grow into a future network outside IBM. That was a synergistic vision, though none of us really thought of it that way at the time. We just had the intention to pursue self-improvement, to practice effective habits, to learn from and support each other, to be open to new ideas and see what might come out of that.
In the nearly four years with LPG, I know I have changed for the better: more positive, responsible, self-determined, patient, open, intuitive and more deliberate in choosing how I would feel, believe, act and serve others. The result: one of the most remarkable personal experiences in my life. I learned from others and others learned from me. Together, our circle of influence grew mutually. It's not a zero-sum game in which some becoming more powerful at the expense of someone else having less power. That is the synergistic effect.
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Some points brought up at the meeting about Synergy:
1. When family members are so busy with their own priorities, how can they synergize?
Well, maybe it's all right each do their own thing. Not everything has to be synergized.
Or, maybe purposefully sit down once in a while with the intention to talk about the "mission statement" of the family. Have the family together do Habit 2: Begin With The End in Mind.
But, what if we can't break out from our own positions of "I am right, you are wrong" and cannot come to a process for agreement.
Have some trusted someone to facilitate the conversation (a counselor, a trusted friend).
2. Since synergy requires trusting relationship, how can you develop synergy when there is no relationship?
Take a page from the Open Source community, (Linux eg) establish a trusted cluster of members. Each cluster trusts another cluster. So, the whole can become a trusting community. In other words, you don't have to know or have to develop trust for everyone in a community hundreds or thousands strong, start with a trusted circle.
Establish relationship by personally making an effort to make an overture, a call eg, with the person on the other side. Tell them directly you want to improve your relationship with that person.
3. Synergy is about the willingness and commitment to seek a third circle (alternative)--one that is bigger than the sum of its parts. It is a process that requires a willingness to get out of your own circle (your ego, your assumptions) and seek to understand the other circle. Have faith in the process that can appear to be chaotic at times. Give the person a hug (your child for example) once in while just to show you care.
4. How do you value differences?
Be curious. How can you be curious? Be interested. What if there are things or people I am really not interested in? Well, maybe, but be open anyway. Don't conclude right the way that a topic or a person is not your cup of tea right the way. Be open.
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As I start my own new beginning of retirement, there are a number of opportunities for LPG to take. I am excited there is a real opporunity to take LPG to outside the blue wall. And we welcome to our group, a guest from the Mayo Clinic community, Ji-Yun. We hope as LPG evolves, she can help us shape it in a way meaningful to a constituency broader than IBM without losing its original core value.
Next meeting we will do Habit 7:
Habit 7 is Sharpening the Saw. It's a habit of continual renewal in four dimensions: physical, mental, social/emotional and spiritual.
We socialized, had pizza for lunch, then Hoa read to the group the heart-felt email from Gilma. Her words and her voice all the way from Brazil touched all of us deeply. We felt her presence.
Thanks to both LPG Core and LPG Extended members who made it such a special occasion for me. Thanks for giving me the Re-think diary and the Blanchard book, Live What You Love. I am grateful for being part of this wonderful group of people.
My retiring from IBM offers synergistic opportunity to bring the spirit of LPG to a wider circle. (Welcome Ji-Yun to LPG. You might just be our link to Mayo Clinic). LPG started four years ago in a conversation with a couple of IBM Asian Networking Group (ANG) officers. There was a feeling that ANG needed to encourage and enable leadership development of its members. And somewhat in jest, I mentioned I would like to do something for ANG that could grow into a future network outside IBM. That was a synergistic vision, though none of us really thought of it that way at the time. We just had the intention to pursue self-improvement, to practice effective habits, to learn from and support each other, to be open to new ideas and see what might come out of that.
In the nearly four years with LPG, I know I have changed for the better: more positive, responsible, self-determined, patient, open, intuitive and more deliberate in choosing how I would feel, believe, act and serve others. The result: one of the most remarkable personal experiences in my life. I learned from others and others learned from me. Together, our circle of influence grew mutually. It's not a zero-sum game in which some becoming more powerful at the expense of someone else having less power. That is the synergistic effect.
-----
Some points brought up at the meeting about Synergy:
1. When family members are so busy with their own priorities, how can they synergize?
Well, maybe it's all right each do their own thing. Not everything has to be synergized.
Or, maybe purposefully sit down once in a while with the intention to talk about the "mission statement" of the family. Have the family together do Habit 2: Begin With The End in Mind.
But, what if we can't break out from our own positions of "I am right, you are wrong" and cannot come to a process for agreement.
Have some trusted someone to facilitate the conversation (a counselor, a trusted friend).
2. Since synergy requires trusting relationship, how can you develop synergy when there is no relationship?
Take a page from the Open Source community, (Linux eg) establish a trusted cluster of members. Each cluster trusts another cluster. So, the whole can become a trusting community. In other words, you don't have to know or have to develop trust for everyone in a community hundreds or thousands strong, start with a trusted circle.
Establish relationship by personally making an effort to make an overture, a call eg, with the person on the other side. Tell them directly you want to improve your relationship with that person.
3. Synergy is about the willingness and commitment to seek a third circle (alternative)--one that is bigger than the sum of its parts. It is a process that requires a willingness to get out of your own circle (your ego, your assumptions) and seek to understand the other circle. Have faith in the process that can appear to be chaotic at times. Give the person a hug (your child for example) once in while just to show you care.
4. How do you value differences?
Be curious. How can you be curious? Be interested. What if there are things or people I am really not interested in? Well, maybe, but be open anyway. Don't conclude right the way that a topic or a person is not your cup of tea right the way. Be open.
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As I start my own new beginning of retirement, there are a number of opportunities for LPG to take. I am excited there is a real opporunity to take LPG to outside the blue wall. And we welcome to our group, a guest from the Mayo Clinic community, Ji-Yun. We hope as LPG evolves, she can help us shape it in a way meaningful to a constituency broader than IBM without losing its original core value.
Next meeting we will do Habit 7:
Habit 7 is Sharpening the Saw. It's a habit of continual renewal in four dimensions: physical, mental, social/emotional and spiritual.
Friday, August 8, 2008
8/7/08 My Last Day at IBM
Yesterday was my last day as an active employee of IBM. It was also one of my most fulfilling and action packed days.
In the morning, I attended the second session of the Indian Cultural Class for IBM led by Savita, Parul and a couple of other IBMers who have lived in India. I got to connect more deeply to the common Asian core in which I grew up.
Mid-morning, the IBM Toastmasters Club had its first-ever outdoor meeting at the IBM park. Susan (our TM Sergent at Arms) reminded us to use our outdoor voice for more volume projection so everyone could better hear. And I did.
From the heart with very little prior practice, I gave a speech appropriately called "A New Beginning." I had a few rough edges and spoke for 20 minutes without notes. Essentially, what I wanted to say was that I am going to improve on how to lead my life. (I had been inspired by Prof Randy Pausch's last lecture at CMU. And the words he left behind: "It's not about how you achieve your dreams. It's about how you lead your life.")
Starting from learning to master the self, then feeling and knowing the oneness of all fellow beings, then performing small acts of kindness for others, then showing up and taking actions to value and honor racial, cultural, religious diversities within Rochester, then working on commercial projects that blend east/west traditions--I will embrace all that is good in us. And one deliberate step at a time, I intend to contribute to the creation of an enlightened planetary civilization.
At the end of the speech, my TM friends gave me a standing ovation. I was humbled and gratified. For a brief, wonderful moment, we were indeed one.
That is exactly the act of kindness and encouragement that I needed to start my next life chapter. Isn't it wonderful: The World Is A Reflection of Me.
In the evening, coincidentally, Bill called to invite Donna and me to his house. The idea of having us over came to him quite unplanned. His just felt into it. His brother-in-law from Australia is in town. Since we had met over 10 years ago, why not get together again.
I had to smile at the surprise invitation.
Bill didn't know until I told him at his house that along with giving me the pleasure of seeing his brother-in-law again, he was helping me celebrate my new beginning.
It was a day when all the dots were connected. That's what I call a synergistic day.
In the morning, I attended the second session of the Indian Cultural Class for IBM led by Savita, Parul and a couple of other IBMers who have lived in India. I got to connect more deeply to the common Asian core in which I grew up.
Mid-morning, the IBM Toastmasters Club had its first-ever outdoor meeting at the IBM park. Susan (our TM Sergent at Arms) reminded us to use our outdoor voice for more volume projection so everyone could better hear. And I did.
From the heart with very little prior practice, I gave a speech appropriately called "A New Beginning." I had a few rough edges and spoke for 20 minutes without notes. Essentially, what I wanted to say was that I am going to improve on how to lead my life. (I had been inspired by Prof Randy Pausch's last lecture at CMU. And the words he left behind: "It's not about how you achieve your dreams. It's about how you lead your life.")
Starting from learning to master the self, then feeling and knowing the oneness of all fellow beings, then performing small acts of kindness for others, then showing up and taking actions to value and honor racial, cultural, religious diversities within Rochester, then working on commercial projects that blend east/west traditions--I will embrace all that is good in us. And one deliberate step at a time, I intend to contribute to the creation of an enlightened planetary civilization.
At the end of the speech, my TM friends gave me a standing ovation. I was humbled and gratified. For a brief, wonderful moment, we were indeed one.
That is exactly the act of kindness and encouragement that I needed to start my next life chapter. Isn't it wonderful: The World Is A Reflection of Me.
In the evening, coincidentally, Bill called to invite Donna and me to his house. The idea of having us over came to him quite unplanned. His just felt into it. His brother-in-law from Australia is in town. Since we had met over 10 years ago, why not get together again.
I had to smile at the surprise invitation.
Bill didn't know until I told him at his house that along with giving me the pleasure of seeing his brother-in-law again, he was helping me celebrate my new beginning.
It was a day when all the dots were connected. That's what I call a synergistic day.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Snergize and Synchronicity
I am at best only a casual student of psychology. Whatever knowledge I have comes from flipping pages of Psychology Today. Probably due to a faulty mailing list system, an unsubscribed copy of that magazien would arrive regularly at our house.
Carl Jung is one of the most frequently cited authorities in many of the articles. And I seem to remember that Covey in his 7 Habit book also mentions Jung.
I have always thought that Jung's synchronicity lines up with Habit 6: Synergize.
Both have the belief that life's seemingly chaotic events follow a pattern. Coincidents add up to produce synergistic results. One plus one sometimes does add up to four or more. The whole can be greater than the sum of its parts.
I have witnessed the working of synchronicity and synergy all this week.
Story 1: Close Encounter of the Liked Kind
Last Monday, Kay, Director of Rochester Diversity Council, meets with me to see if I would be interested in joining the DC board. Being passionate about diversity at IBM and now about to retire with more time on my hand, I told her I was interested and would gladly fill out an application form.
The next day, Tuesday morning, I fill out the application form and mail it to Kay. That was that, so I thought. But an hour later, at noon, Roger and I are at our Kiwanis Club West's weekly meeting. Lo and behold, I notice that on the agenda is a topic about diversity. And Kay is the featured speaker. Needless to say, Kay and I were both pleasantly surprised. What a coincidence! I told her if I had known she was going to be at the meeting I could have saved the postage stamp and just handed her my application.
Story 2: "Who are you again?"
Yesterday, after talking to my financial adviser who reassures me I am still good to go financially to retire, I wander into a "job fair" in the auditorium next to her office. I was not looking for anything in particular. I was just curious what was going on. Best Buy was there and a number of other companies too. As I browse around the room half-interested, I come to one of the last tables at the room, the woman behind the table calls out: "Al!" She looked familiar but I couldn't place her. "I am Abbey," she said. I am still puzzled. She went on: "You and I have been exchanging email the last couple of weeks." Then it clicks. I am standing in front of the table of RCTC. Abbey, whom I had met a couple of years ago when RCTC needed help to design a Chinese cultural course, have been emailing with me about the possibility of teaching that class. In our exchange she also became intrigued about LPG. What a coincidence!
Well, how will these two stories play out as far as Synergize goes remains to be seen. But I have a feeling that whatever it is the whole will be greater than the sum of its parts.
See this link for today's LPG meeting agenda.
Carl Jung is one of the most frequently cited authorities in many of the articles. And I seem to remember that Covey in his 7 Habit book also mentions Jung.
I have always thought that Jung's synchronicity lines up with Habit 6: Synergize.
Both have the belief that life's seemingly chaotic events follow a pattern. Coincidents add up to produce synergistic results. One plus one sometimes does add up to four or more. The whole can be greater than the sum of its parts.
I have witnessed the working of synchronicity and synergy all this week.
Story 1: Close Encounter of the Liked Kind
Last Monday, Kay, Director of Rochester Diversity Council, meets with me to see if I would be interested in joining the DC board. Being passionate about diversity at IBM and now about to retire with more time on my hand, I told her I was interested and would gladly fill out an application form.
The next day, Tuesday morning, I fill out the application form and mail it to Kay. That was that, so I thought. But an hour later, at noon, Roger and I are at our Kiwanis Club West's weekly meeting. Lo and behold, I notice that on the agenda is a topic about diversity. And Kay is the featured speaker. Needless to say, Kay and I were both pleasantly surprised. What a coincidence! I told her if I had known she was going to be at the meeting I could have saved the postage stamp and just handed her my application.
Story 2: "Who are you again?"
Yesterday, after talking to my financial adviser who reassures me I am still good to go financially to retire, I wander into a "job fair" in the auditorium next to her office. I was not looking for anything in particular. I was just curious what was going on. Best Buy was there and a number of other companies too. As I browse around the room half-interested, I come to one of the last tables at the room, the woman behind the table calls out: "Al!" She looked familiar but I couldn't place her. "I am Abbey," she said. I am still puzzled. She went on: "You and I have been exchanging email the last couple of weeks." Then it clicks. I am standing in front of the table of RCTC. Abbey, whom I had met a couple of years ago when RCTC needed help to design a Chinese cultural course, have been emailing with me about the possibility of teaching that class. In our exchange she also became intrigued about LPG. What a coincidence!
Well, how will these two stories play out as far as Synergize goes remains to be seen. But I have a feeling that whatever it is the whole will be greater than the sum of its parts.
See this link for today's LPG meeting agenda.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Synergy Definition
I am jotting down some quotes from Covey that resonate with "diversity"--an effort which, up till now, I have tried to model mainly at IBM, and which with my retirement shortly I will do more in the Rochester community:
Synergy means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
And,
The essence of synergy is to value differences--to respect them, to build on strengths, to compensate for weaknesses.
Synergy means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
And,
The essence of synergy is to value differences--to respect them, to build on strengths, to compensate for weaknesses.
Friday, July 18, 2008
Habit 6: Synergize
As I count down my days to retire from IBM, the habit of synergize (Habit 6 of 7 Effective Habits) is something that I really want to practice. And it's already bearing fruits.
Through my work with Rochester Diversity Council, having just finished training as a prejudiced reduction workshop facilitator, I have a feeling that what I have done at IBM working to improve the company's diversity initiatives is going to blend in. These two work streams are synergistic and in fact will drive toward my vision of being a subject matter expert (SME) in globalization as a vocation in ACT 2 of my career.
I have an intention to play a role in the creation of an enlightened, holistic global civilization, which awakens to the "middle way" that blends the western scientific and efficient belief systems with the eastern traditions of mindfulness and natural harmony.
As I pay attention to Covey's Habit 6, I can see that synergistic results are happening. In addition to participating in diversity beyond the blue wall, because the work I did helping to support the Chinese Cultural Class at IBM, there is now an opportunity for me to participate, after I retire, to serve as one of the instructors for this course for Rochester and maybe beyond.
The multiplication effects of synergy is everywhere within yourself, family, workplace, neighborhood, the planet and the universe. Keep contributing to its natural growth, from an inner sense of good will, helps it become the New Earth,. Serve the world with good intentions. Sooner or later all things of good intentions will line up.
At least that is my belief.
Through my work with Rochester Diversity Council, having just finished training as a prejudiced reduction workshop facilitator, I have a feeling that what I have done at IBM working to improve the company's diversity initiatives is going to blend in. These two work streams are synergistic and in fact will drive toward my vision of being a subject matter expert (SME) in globalization as a vocation in ACT 2 of my career.
I have an intention to play a role in the creation of an enlightened, holistic global civilization, which awakens to the "middle way" that blends the western scientific and efficient belief systems with the eastern traditions of mindfulness and natural harmony.
As I pay attention to Covey's Habit 6, I can see that synergistic results are happening. In addition to participating in diversity beyond the blue wall, because the work I did helping to support the Chinese Cultural Class at IBM, there is now an opportunity for me to participate, after I retire, to serve as one of the instructors for this course for Rochester and maybe beyond.
The multiplication effects of synergy is everywhere within yourself, family, workplace, neighborhood, the planet and the universe. Keep contributing to its natural growth, from an inner sense of good will, helps it become the New Earth,. Serve the world with good intentions. Sooner or later all things of good intentions will line up.
At least that is my belief.
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Seek first to understand, then to be understood
At our last meeting, Taylor guided the discussions on Covey's Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood. A few interesting points came up:
Q1. Part 1 of this habit is quite easy for me to do as an Asian. But if I do always follow this habit, wouldn't I run the risk of being looked upon by a western company culture as some one who is timid, indecisive? I am worried this idealized habit is not helpful for my career especially in company cultures that reward "shooting from the heap".
A1. It's possible that you could work in an environment where shooting from the heap is the culture. Some organizations do not recognize the power of Covey's Habit 5. They become blind to and unconscious of the truth and will not in the long run continue to succeed. But since Covey and others have been teaching these habits, there are more and more companies that do pay attention. Ultimately, it is really up to you to decide when you want to use this habit. You have the freedom to choose. And when you have faith and do it , you will be surprised how more open people are to returning the favor of trying to understanding you.
Q2. This habit seems to suggest that we need to be still and quiet as we interact with someone. But you say sometimes, we do need to interrupt? When is the right time?
A2. Keeping an open posture, paying attention, be still and not interrupting is still the best approach. When we do interrupt, it is to get clearer meaning what the other person is really saying. Resist the temptation to advice or tell our own story. There are times that we need to summon our courage to say something when we fully understand that our own values and principles are at stake. That really is part 2 of the habit. I myself have learned to speak up when I hear statements that demean people (have racial or discrimination overtones).
Q3. I am aware of my own thoughts as I try to listen to other people. Listening is really not easy for me. It seems I am trying to get ready to advice and respond.
A3. As soon as you are aware of the thoughts, you can whisper silently to yourself, "Pay attention." Do it not as admonishment, but rather a light-hearted reminder. You will find you can be present again.
Q4. I notice there are people who are very witty. They are humorous and they put people at ease. What role does wit have to play in this habit?
A4. Wit and humor is a good skill to have. They are social grace. But there are also people who try too hard to be witty, they are not really listening. They just want to come up with a clever line. Overdoing this would discourage people from opening up to them.
Q5. We find silence very uncomfortable.
A5. Well, go try it sometime. Deliberately fight the urge to speak and just smile and show appreciation. See what happens.
Q1. Part 1 of this habit is quite easy for me to do as an Asian. But if I do always follow this habit, wouldn't I run the risk of being looked upon by a western company culture as some one who is timid, indecisive? I am worried this idealized habit is not helpful for my career especially in company cultures that reward "shooting from the heap".
A1. It's possible that you could work in an environment where shooting from the heap is the culture. Some organizations do not recognize the power of Covey's Habit 5. They become blind to and unconscious of the truth and will not in the long run continue to succeed. But since Covey and others have been teaching these habits, there are more and more companies that do pay attention. Ultimately, it is really up to you to decide when you want to use this habit. You have the freedom to choose. And when you have faith and do it , you will be surprised how more open people are to returning the favor of trying to understanding you.
Q2. This habit seems to suggest that we need to be still and quiet as we interact with someone. But you say sometimes, we do need to interrupt? When is the right time?
A2. Keeping an open posture, paying attention, be still and not interrupting is still the best approach. When we do interrupt, it is to get clearer meaning what the other person is really saying. Resist the temptation to advice or tell our own story. There are times that we need to summon our courage to say something when we fully understand that our own values and principles are at stake. That really is part 2 of the habit. I myself have learned to speak up when I hear statements that demean people (have racial or discrimination overtones).
Q3. I am aware of my own thoughts as I try to listen to other people. Listening is really not easy for me. It seems I am trying to get ready to advice and respond.
A3. As soon as you are aware of the thoughts, you can whisper silently to yourself, "Pay attention." Do it not as admonishment, but rather a light-hearted reminder. You will find you can be present again.
Q4. I notice there are people who are very witty. They are humorous and they put people at ease. What role does wit have to play in this habit?
A4. Wit and humor is a good skill to have. They are social grace. But there are also people who try too hard to be witty, they are not really listening. They just want to come up with a clever line. Overdoing this would discourage people from opening up to them.
Q5. We find silence very uncomfortable.
A5. Well, go try it sometime. Deliberately fight the urge to speak and just smile and show appreciation. See what happens.
A new beginning
Since I am about to retire from my old company, the consensus is that we should continue to support each other in growing leadership skills. We are moving blogging and other group information to the internet. This is the first blog post.
I have moved the some of the LPG Plone Content to this Google wiki site.
I have moved the some of the LPG Plone Content to this Google wiki site.
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